tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6316705041437805546.post3709515042029733878..comments2023-09-28T13:13:19.829+01:00Comments on 21stCenturyCareerMom: Not Simple, Yet It IsHazelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08744610032983533830noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6316705041437805546.post-6796668774227666082013-10-12T19:10:42.020+01:002013-10-12T19:10:42.020+01:00Where was I when this post happened. Hazel dear, y...Where was I when this post happened. Hazel dear, you made a lot of valid points. May God help us all to do what we are supposed to do, be who we are supposed to be as wives and stop focusing on what the other party is not doing right. Appreciating anybody brings out the best in the person. Nagging does the opposite. As wives, we should ask God, who is our bedrock, to give us grace perform our own part and rather than nag our hubbies, talk to his maker, to minister to his heart. Don't underestimate the power of prayer, it sure works! God made marriage and he made it to be good. For the single ones, save yourself a lot of stress by choosing to marry a man after God's heart who understands why he should love his wife unconditionally, just like Christ loves the churchRafar Pharmacare .....look good,live healthy!https://www.blogger.com/profile/05565819935279898928noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6316705041437805546.post-38691550922749755982013-02-15T21:41:02.481+01:002013-02-15T21:41:02.481+01:00nice one. it really does take two to make a marria...nice one. it really does take two to make a marriage work. I like the fact about taking him out and getting laid later...lol...www.secretlilies.blogspot.comIbifiri Kamsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03935480773984052778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6316705041437805546.post-52671696402620085042013-02-05T02:09:35.359+01:002013-02-05T02:09:35.359+01:00Hazel, this is a very insightful article but just ...Hazel, this is a very insightful article but just like most I have read, it seems like when a marriage is failing it is always up to the woman salvage it. Subconsciously, we all just assume there is something she is doing wrong.<br /><br /> <br />It is up to both partners to keep things hot and sexy .If the guy is not being satisfied sexually he should communicate and let his wife know. If she is getting fat, he should sign her up at a gym and encourage her by going with her. Likewise, if the wife thinks the husband is getting out of shape, she should encourage him to lose weight. <br /><br />When a couple gets married they both lose their freedom, women even lose more freedom than men.Any man that is grumbling because of his lost freedom, is immature. Except he was forced at gun point to marry his wife, he should suck it up and man up.<br /><br />And no I don’t agree with “ But after marriage, it’s on the woman’s shoulder to woo her husband”. If your husband loves you, he will continue to do the things that made you happy when you were dating. Off course he sometimes may get overwhelmed with his new role as husband but if he automatically stops treating you well, then you probably did not know who he really was. Your relationship will gradually lose it “organic-ness” and authenticity when you are constantly nursing his ego and wooing him .You want your husband to love you just because he does!<br /><br />This article applies to both husband and wife, I definitely agree 100% with your statement “It takes two people, willing and committed, to make a successful partnership/marriage work”.Well said hun!<br />Yemstarnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6316705041437805546.post-26706113271985121232013-02-04T00:10:25.400+01:002013-02-04T00:10:25.400+01:00Very insightful.
But what happens when, in some ca...Very insightful.<br />But what happens when, in some cases, the woman does all the work and the man never meets her halfway?MissMayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14843336502394151115noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6316705041437805546.post-12424482770105361682013-02-03T12:34:43.464+01:002013-02-03T12:34:43.464+01:00Awesome write up....Ur tips r so on point nne!Awesome write up....Ur tips r so on point nne!Ng2kiinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6316705041437805546.post-46029455959841435032013-02-01T17:24:07.667+01:002013-02-01T17:24:07.667+01:00Really great tips you have shared. I would likely ...Really great tips you have shared. I would likely come back over and over again to read this post.<br />Would be helpful in the future...:)<br />Thanks for sharing.ayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06781775998068091644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6316705041437805546.post-611385366956403272013-01-28T21:10:11.411+01:002013-01-28T21:10:11.411+01:00Quickly scribbling down the key points which is ev...Quickly scribbling down the key points which is everything you wrote. This would be very useful when i get married. Thanks for sharing. Chehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12087573646392976170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6316705041437805546.post-13024661117597772912013-01-28T20:31:38.541+01:002013-01-28T20:31:38.541+01:00@Cynthia Amen. God continue to bless our efforts!@Cynthia Amen. God continue to bless our efforts!Hazelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08744610032983533830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6316705041437805546.post-37078409247160840102013-01-28T20:29:53.889+01:002013-01-28T20:29:53.889+01:00This post is a great one! :* :* :* :**! God bless ...This post is a great one! :* :* :* :**! God bless our effort.Cynthia C.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6316705041437805546.post-50953717529482808282013-01-28T20:21:01.867+01:002013-01-28T20:21:01.867+01:00@~Sirius~ Babe, you hit the nail on the head. Your...@~Sirius~ Babe, you hit the nail on the head. Your comment = story of my life. So hard. But these posts, they are my reminders.<br /><br />@Luciano I love that you take notes. You never know when it'll be handy. LOL<br /><br />@Chuwe Thank you so much, especially for reading, sharing and leaving me a comment. Bless..xx Hazelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08744610032983533830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6316705041437805546.post-56578525467810075082013-01-28T20:13:06.012+01:002013-01-28T20:13:06.012+01:00@Olaedo "Am i still doing my part?" is a...@Olaedo "Am i still doing my part?" is a great question. I slack...a lot. And he voices his displeasure...a lot. And i wonder why he would not understand how busy and hectic my schedule is...a lot!<br /><br />@Demi I've followed you to go whisper sweet nothings o. I cant shout!Hazelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08744610032983533830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6316705041437805546.post-65443742326669707572013-01-28T20:09:10.038+01:002013-01-28T20:09:10.038+01:00Very interesting post with great tips with a very ...Very interesting post with great tips with a very important question who should be asking ourselves at the end; "Am I really doing my part to make this marriage work?"Okeoghenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06374233345612835685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6316705041437805546.post-76497022588592953152013-01-28T20:09:00.304+01:002013-01-28T20:09:00.304+01:00@EmaLeecious I know right? Writing to myself as we...@EmaLeecious I know right? Writing to myself as well as to anyone that reads the post. Sometimes, most times, i lose sight of whats important.<br /><br />@Folkeezy Different marriages, different handouts. Each relationship has its own peculiarities. However, whatever one's can pick up from the next person's marriage handout to help better one's own relationship goes a long way. I learnt to compliment my husband from a girlfriend. I never used to do that.Hazelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08744610032983533830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6316705041437805546.post-3626610795593689482013-01-28T13:49:19.356+01:002013-01-28T13:49:19.356+01:00I love this post. I took lots of mental notes and ...I love this post. I took lots of mental notes and sent it to all my girlfriends. I am also not yet married but many of my friends are and I hear these questions too often. I have no illusions about happy ever after in the Cinderella sense but I refuse to believe the "marriage is not all its cut out to be" mantras I hear all the time. Marriage is a lot of work for both parties. Work you put in to making yourself happy. Work you put into making your significant other happy. Work you put in to staying true to what you believe and in staying true to you. Work you put into making it work. It always works best when both parties try. "It takes two people, willing and committed, to<br />make a successful partnership/marriage work." Even if the marriage fails, when you walk away, you must never for a second doubt that you were the best you could be. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09004770129595776170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6316705041437805546.post-78656590147204901732013-01-28T10:22:43.745+01:002013-01-28T10:22:43.745+01:00wow.......
*taking noteswow.......<br />*taking notesLucianohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04012994261394980556noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6316705041437805546.post-26860077426278707382013-01-27T07:02:16.539+01:002013-01-27T07:02:16.539+01:00Long but worth the readingLong but worth the readingAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11832782361662617233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6316705041437805546.post-33155680108526086182013-01-26T13:37:31.695+01:002013-01-26T13:37:31.695+01:00Long comment Alert!
Pls forgive any typos.
Hazel...Long comment Alert!<br />Pls forgive any typos. <br /><br />Hazel!!! The advice from the lady to you and Bena. So true!!!<br /><br />The earlier a wife knows she just can't go with the flow and begins to woo her husband, she'll have that dream marriage she read about and watched in the movies.<br />Most times men just respond to what they see. If a wife has lost her sexiness and enthusiasm towards her husband, he begins to take interest in things that "have his time"<br />Most times women let it go: we believe our to-do-list is endless; work, kids, house, church etc. Forgetting ourselves and our husband. Big mistake.<br />Another thing is most women resent their husband's for something or the other, or they haven't forgiven them for a "past crime" Men always have those. There's no way things will be ok when deep down you haven't let some things go. <br />I learnt that all the work of a good marriage rests with the wife. Don't complain, instead work on yourself first, don't expect instant results: but you just might get it. Talk Talk Talk...communication is very important, and not about money for the house or money for school fees or what's wrong in the house and who is coming to fix it. There was a time those discussions never existed between you two.<br />It is hard. But when you are kind and gentle, not nagging but being appreciative and encouraging. Taking care of yourself and looking good. You Pray like never before in your quiet time and trusting God to answer. With time you won't believe the drastic change that would occur. ~Sirius~https://www.blogger.com/profile/14771610618431377950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6316705041437805546.post-38327614353033347162013-01-26T13:14:47.966+01:002013-01-26T13:14:47.966+01:00Hhhhhm, my neighbour wetin I wan write wey we neve...Hhhhhm, my neighbour wetin I wan write wey we never talk in person. Like you said marriage takes work, afterall is there any good thing that comes without dedication and commitment. My homegal kip up the good work, off to send hubby some sweet nothings!!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11832782361662617233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6316705041437805546.post-3257910100234706642013-01-26T12:18:06.061+01:002013-01-26T12:18:06.061+01:00Even though I am not married, I've always said...Even though I am not married, I've always said this but people around me go, "it's not your fault naaa, wait until u're married before you start giving advice" *sighs* I especially like where u went...<br /><br />"It takes two people, willing and committed, to<br />make a successful partnership/marriage work. So<br />before you give up on your marriage, and start<br />telling the whole world and their grandchildren<br />how much of a loser your husband is, ask<br />yourself this question: “Have I really, really really,<br />really done my part?”"<br /><br />This really should help married people who r willing to make their marriage work!Folkeezyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08390331127660126896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6316705041437805546.post-15419124836855138632013-01-26T11:59:27.284+01:002013-01-26T11:59:27.284+01:00Really great post, dear.
Good question... “Have I ...Really great post, dear.<br />Good question... “Have I really done my part?”<br />Then... "Am I still doing my part?"Olaedohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07483873445230450665noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6316705041437805546.post-77864697600549135072013-01-26T11:10:01.153+01:002013-01-26T11:10:01.153+01:00Even though I am not married, I've always said...Even though I am not married, I've always said this but people around me go, "it's not your fault naaa, wait until u're married before you start giving advice" *sighs* I especially like where u went...<br /><br />"It takes two people, willing and committed, to<br />make a successful partnership/marriage work. So<br />before you give up on your marriage, and start<br />telling the whole world and their grandchildren<br />how much of a loser your husband is, ask<br />yourself this question: “Have I really, really really,<br />really done my part?”"<br /><br />This really should help married people who r willing to make their marriage work!Folkeezyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08390331127660126896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6316705041437805546.post-68717910376764673402013-01-26T11:05:53.361+01:002013-01-26T11:05:53.361+01:00Wow!
Wow!!
WOW!!!
This is an amazing post. Put so ...Wow!<br />Wow!!<br />WOW!!!<br />This is an amazing post. Put so many things in perspective.<br />God bless you hazel!Emaleecioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03073712989459399826noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6316705041437805546.post-83105057921748902572013-01-26T10:14:49.268+01:002013-01-26T10:14:49.268+01:00Nice one! Running off to the gymNice one! Running off to the gymAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6316705041437805546.post-32562958726099500762013-01-26T09:20:02.912+01:002013-01-26T09:20:02.912+01:00@Anon I'm glad. Thank you for reading and comm...@Anon I'm glad. Thank you for reading and commenting.xxxHazelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08744610032983533830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6316705041437805546.post-30199618701196787612013-01-26T09:06:08.206+01:002013-01-26T09:06:08.206+01:00Thank you!thank you! Thank you!!! I needed that ca...Thank you!thank you! Thank you!!! I needed that cause I have been .......well, let's just say u touched someone. Muaaahh dearie!! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com