Between Dreams and Dust
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The idea of squatting her wasn’t as abhorrent as I
feared in retrospect. Heck, I suggested it but then, my mouth has been known to
run ahead of my head on occasion. The brain needed more than a few moments to
process the suggestion the mouth just spewed and it came up with a few
arguments in its favour...
While I am borderline OCD and kinda guard my space
jealously, I’ve known her for a year and she’s as cool as they come. Nearly as
OCDious as I am {if not more sef}, she was one of the coo’ kids and frankly, my
social status did not grudge the rub-off. However, what sealed this arrangement
{and made it as attractive as I could convince my brain} was the thought of my
easy access to a steady supply of premium soaks, also known as Ijebu garri.
Jolo’s stock was legend!
When she first complained about her eyesight that
was suddenly going south bad, we just thought it must be the soaks and suggested
that she cut back on garri drinking. But then, the sudden poor eyesight became
black outs, and with them came truly blinding headaches. Again, we had an
explanation for this: it was time she embraced her family’s spectacle-wearing
destiny. Genes can only wait for so long...
What “it” actually was knocked us for six and with
the diagnosis came a rapid downward spiral that is the very essence of
nightmares. Truly unbelievable. Brain tumor. In a matter of weeks, her eyesight
was gone. Her health was deteriorating so fast there was urgent need to get her
medical treatment outside the country. I had just left the VC’s office to makes
copies of the documents her family needed for the travel when I got the call.
It was her brother. We both spoke at once...
In a Space of Panic
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She’s been firing all kinds of questions at me, a mile a minute, most of which i had no answer to cos i could barely hear them. From my mutters and hmmmms and meaningless hand movements, she must’ve guessed i was tired! Exhausted would be the word. I had had the most hectic day ever!
“You tired, Mummy?”
“Yes, baby...”
“I go outside and play with my brother?”
“Yes, baby!” Relief!
I must’ve been reaaaallly tired cos I never let them play
outside. But within minutes, i heard her happy voice cackle in excitement and i
relaxed. She’s happy; I’ve been blissfully left alone...all is well in my
world. I drifted off to sleep!“I go outside and play with my brother?”
“Yes, baby!” Relief!
It would be a few minutes before it registered that i wasn’t hearing her laughs anymore. Maybe they came back inside, i thought. I made to settle back into that restful sleep but something niggled. And so i stood and peeped outside. No daughter. Just the brother playing with a couple more friends and the househelp standing a distance back, fiddling with her phone.
“Where’s Zi?”, I called out.
The help started. “She’s h... she was...”
...gone. Zi was nowhere!
At first, i wasn’t panicked. Ok, maybe just a little. She’s
the really outgoing child, friendly to a fault. Cute trait sometimes, but not today...here and now. What
if she had willingly followed a kidnapper out? Hush, i chided myself. Can’t be
bringing negative energy this early in the game. However, as the evening gave
way to night, the whole neighbourhood searched with a fine comb and no Zi, i
hit rock bottom!The help started. “She’s h... she was...”
...gone. Zi was nowhere!
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When Siblings Abuse Siblings
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Sibling Abuse
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My kids bicker a lot.
The small one does not know she's small, forever bullying her brother. Even though the boy recognizes the fact that she's younger, when he cannot bear the “bullying” and the almost eely way she slides out of getting punished for her pranks, he lashes out. In form of knocks or swats...at any convenient part of Zi's body!
"Pls what do you do if you have a neighbor that beats his sister up for no reason all the time?!"
— Hazel A. (@Zitera) June 12, 2013
My kids fight a lot.
Now, it’s easy to pass this behaviour off as childish exuberance but with what is going on in the world these days, I chose to know better. Like Sisi Yemmie said, “Na from clap these things dey take enter dance.”
For every time Chets hits Zi, whether justifiable or not, he gets punished. When asked why he's punished, he would reply “Because I hit my sister.” And why is that wrong, I would ask. And he would reply, “I am not supposed to hit any girl or lady or woman.”
He didn't get this logic initially. How does he get
wronged and get punished for being wronged? But he's beginning to get it now.
Especially when the Hubs asks, “Have you ever seen me beat/slap/hit your mom?” to
which he answers, “All you people do is Kiss! Yuck!”Now, it’s easy to pass this behaviour off as childish exuberance but with what is going on in the world these days, I chose to know better. Like Sisi Yemmie said, “Na from clap these things dey take enter dance.”
For every time Chets hits Zi, whether justifiable or not, he gets punished. When asked why he's punished, he would reply “Because I hit my sister.” And why is that wrong, I would ask. And he would reply, “I am not supposed to hit any girl or lady or woman.”
My kids are 6 & 3 respectively.
With all these bickers and fights, you can NEVER doubt for one moment, the love or bond between my duo. Never. Nobody says so much as an ugly word to Zi, especially in school... Do they not know her elder brother is Chetanna A?!!! He is that protective of her. And you cannot punish him unduly without Zi whining you to hell and back...
That's what siblings are about. Love, Fight, Tolerance, Make up, Love!
So when I got this chat from this young friend of mine, my first question was “How old are these siblings?” My second question was “Are they blood siblings?”. Cos this is so weird. When I got the full story from this child that couldn't stop crying long enough to make sense, I sat down and cried! Usually soft-spoken and just a joy to listen to, her cries this morning ripped at me!
"Turns her into a punching bag. And is beating her up with canes (2 at the same time) blows. Sister is 20, brother is 26"This is sooooo wrong! So wrong! How long has this been going on? And what usually provokes him?
— Hazel A. (@Zitera) June 12, 2013
I don't
know what to do today. It’s my brother and me. I barely have the strength to
walk. This has been going on since I’ve known him. I’ve always been in boarding
house, then University so it happens on mostly holidays, when he's not in
school as well. Today, I barely said a word to him. I wish I knew what I did to
provoke him. Just yesterday, he smashed the DVD in my room because I removed
his movie (that refused to play) and put in mine. This beating is like an
everyday thing.
I've
always been pointing this behaviour out to my Mum. Always! All she keeps saying
is “He's your elder brother.” Until lately, some months back. I lent him my
laptop. He promised to bring it back in March. He brought it just last month
and everything was wrong with it. When I complained, he beat me. That's just
when my mom started seeing all that I'd been saying for years. Just last
month!!!!
I don't
know what my brother studied in school. How would I? How can I have a
relationship with this kind of person? I forget I have a brother; it’s that
bad. I have all sorts of scars on my body. Old scars from him. Normally he uses
belts, flower vases, shoes, all sorts to beat me. And then, he bites me as
well. All my mom keeps saying is “Two wrongs don't make a right!”
Scarred: Enough or Too Much?
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“No, don't touch my head like
that!”
“Mummy, Ifunnaya is bending my
head backwards!”“Ifunnaya, leave alone I want to bathe myself!”
“Why did you push me? Now my leg is bleeding. Mummy, Ifunnaya has cut my legs o!”
“Oooooooh, this water is now cold!”
“Mummy, I have not finished my home work oo!”
“Ifunnaya, leave me alooooooooooone! I can dress myself!”
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| {This was their exact same reaction when i showed them the picture of a burning body. Would teach them to stop playing with fuel and generator. But i digress...} |
Photo Credit: Google
It goes on and on. I always
listen in with one ear as I get ready for work and sometimes when I can’t deal
with silliness anymore, I go meet him at the bath with Mr Cane in tow.
Since I always drop them off at
school on my way to work, some days, I always threaten to leave him at home and
take only Zi to school. But not going to school is not a get-out-of-jail free
card. I make sure to promise that if school was not attended for a day because
of tardiness, cane must touch body. 10 times.
The thing with kids is this: if
you threaten/promise to do something to/for them long enough and you renege on
all occasions, your word won’t count for shit where they are concerned. I had
made this particular threat for so long but for each time I threaten, his
father pleads on his behalf and hustles him off to the car.
Today started as usual.
Today, I made my “promise” as
usual. Today, he thought it was business as usual.
Today is #Day5 of my #JuiceFast.
Today, I didn't sleep a wink because his sister was crying from earache all night.
Today, the combination of hunger and lack of sleep was doing me in.
Today, his father left the house at the crack of dawn.
Today, I got into my car and left him...with Zi wailing, “Mummy, please don't leave my bwother!”
Journey To Sexy: Day 2
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Juice Fast,
Juicing,
Weight Loss
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Still standing...barely.
I kinda woke up feeling Anyways, i thought today was gonna end in a cry-fest. I usually cry myself to sleep on Day 2. This one didn’t. Got a bit woozy at about 3pm but the mind is a powerful weapon!
Breakfast - Ugu Juice
Lunch – Grape JuiceDinner – Carrot + Tomato Juice
In-Between Meal Snack – I nearly drowned myself with 3L of water!
Because i was too lazy to ask Google how to go
about juicing vegetables, especially our local veggies, i went ahead and asked
my Philips Juicer Instruction manual.
How I Juiced my Ugu...
♥ I cut the vegetable into
tiny chunks and placed inside a smoothie blender...♥ Next, i squeezed in some lime/lemon juice into the blender. The more the merrier really...
♥ I then added ginger to spice up the drink; threw in ice cubes for good measure...
♥ I blended the mix to some extent, poured the entire mix into the juicer and taa-daaaaaa...
♥ Ugu juice is ready!
I'm sure there are so many other EASIER ways to do this juuicing thingie. Y'all help a sister if you know any of those.
I barely have the strength to type out my next thought. Heck, i can’t even remember what i want to type. I just gonna say Toodles now and hope this post makes a smidgen of sense.
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Xoxo...
Journey To Sexy: Day 1
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Juice Fast,
Juicing,
Weight Loss
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It seems like i’ve been on this since
forever. Sometimes, i’m committed to it. Some other times, i can’t be bothered.
I would start a 3-day detox program and half-way through it, i’ll jump ship. No
energy but mostly no incentive. The last time i was this committed to losing
weight, i lost 9kg. October, 2012. There was no incentive, except i could feel my
obesity weighing me down.
It has to be said. Really, it has to be said. Food
is a SWEET deal! But as sweet as it is, it cannot top money in my books. And
there-in lie the incentive for this current weight loss stint. The hubby thinks
i cannot lose another 10kg in 3 months. I think i can lick it 2 months. The
rules are simple:
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If after
the final weigh-in i’m 0.1kg shy of 10kg, he collects my cheque.
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If
however i max 10kg or above, he credits me double the amount.
Inspired much!
I’m already spending that money in advance...that’s
how confident i am. I love a good dare!
Day 1- Started on a 7-Day Juice
Breakfast – Watermelon Juice.
Lunch – Watermelon + Mango Juice
Dinner – Ugu Juice with a dash of ginger and lemon.
I honestly thought i would hate that ugu juice thingie. Wonders, i loved it. Like totally. I’ve had to tell my stomach there’s no point growling & complaining... Food will not be had until day 8. It seems not to mind so much though. I wasn’t as dizzy as i thought i’ll be. Energy didn’t wane much. Like, i had enough to fit in an hour of Zumba dancing, with my smiles still intact. I doubt i’ll be smiling much tomorrow.
Aside the 12 trips to the restroom to return the 4+ litres of liquid i drank all day, and the really mean duo of SB and Olaedo who sent me pictures of their respective lunch just about the time my hunger was peaking, i’ll say Day 1 went just fine!
80.2kg.
The universe didn’t deem it fit to take away a miserly 0.3kg and make it a nice cohesive figure like 79.9kg, which sounds and feels way better than 80.2kg. Yea, 80.2kg is our start-off. I just want my jigida to sit properly on the tummy. Is that too much to ask?
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Xoxo...
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Never Say Never, Really
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Parenting
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~ Edgar W. Howe
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While I was waiting my turn, I couldn't help but notice this woman struggling to get her 4-year-old son to sit still and just generally shut it. I know; I asked his age. The boy had thrown all sorts of tantrum including hurling himself on the floor; his mother just ignored him. As if that enraged him even more, he started insulting his mother. “Stupid Mummy, wicked mummy, coconut head...”. It went on and on! This well dressed woman, hair intact, nails neatly manicured, turned, looked at her offspring and said, “Junior*, behave yourself or I’m gonna smack you!”. The boy’s response? He literally flew from the floor and gave his mother a resounding slap on the cheek. If people ignored the tantrums initially, they all took notice after the slap. Everybody started talking at once. Me, I just quietly shook my head in disgust and continued fiddling with my phone. Mannerless child! Incompetent mother! Why women would not give their little kids basic home training was beyond me. I mean, how hard could it be getting a child to know who’s boss and who’s in charge? I would never be this mom. I don't see my child behaving like this. I had a plan in place!
A Sell-out, The Heart
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“When you
really care about someone, their mistakes never change how you feel about them.
It is the mind that gets angry; the heart still cares.” ~ Anonymous
I remember it like yesterday, the Friday before my bestie’s traditional
wedding far back in ‘06. It was the soon-to-be-hubby’s birthday. I had no idea
what caused the rift from the night before. Seemed like those days, every- and
anything was a bone of contention between us. I hadn't learnt to say “I’m
sorry. I was wrong. Please forgive me” and he, he didn't even know what “I was
wrong” meant; never mind about “I am sorry”. That would be me asking for too
much really. Hot heads, both of us. Quite passionate about our own
opinions...and we guarded them jealously.
Whatever the bone of contention was from the night before must’ve been
really heavy though, cos we slept on the same darn bed {with the space in
between us as wide as that highway Moses constructed smack in the middle of
River Nile, atink}, woke and resumed scowling at each other. I was soooooo
angry I forgot refused to say Happy Birthday. Angrier when he left for
work without so much as asking how I was gonna get to the airport for my 11:50
to Owerri. Angriest because this would be our last time together until our own
traditional wedding barely two weeks later. Who gives his wife-to-be the silent
treatment in view of all these?
House-Help Chronicles ~ Here We Go Again!
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House-Help Chronicles
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“Follow your instincts. That’s where true wisdom
manifests itself” ~ Oprah Winfrey
Normally, I would feel my poor heart thumping away
in panic as soon as I hear “Mummy, I want to travel and see my people”. These
things can soooooo destabilize one, especially if your working hours ain’t
flexible. For some reason tho, her's just made me smile that quiet
I-was-not-born-yesterday type smile. This move I’ve sorta been expecting
because lately, she's been less that her usual cheerful self...and to be fair,
she hasn't been to see her people in the one year she has stayed with me. Maybe
a change of environ will do her...and ultimately me...a world of good.
The panic began to creep in ever so stealthily
when, after her approved week long holiday I was yet to see or hear from my
trusted help. Hunting and breaking in new domestic staff, especially house
helps is one chore I absolutely dread.
I sent out feelers to all and sundry. The search
was on! After I interviewed the first couple of helps sent my way, I began to
despair. The first could not string together a sentence in English to save her
life; the other was referred to me by my neighbour’s house help....story for
another day.
My joy when I got the BBM chat that said, “Olee gi? Found someone for you o. She took care of these
kids I know. She may sha want like 30k or so” was immeasurable. When I
called the someone found for me, I didn't even bother with interviewing her. I
went from "Hey, how are you?" to "Pack your things and start
coming to my house." What was I interviewing her for? My friend would
never steer me wrong. More so, I know this help’s sister and in my opinion,
Ghana house helps no too dey suffer from local weyrey like their Nigerian
counterparts.
I was beyond relieved when Naomi* {the help} called to say she was in my house. Thank God for friends that always look out for you! I got home that evening to finally meet the voice I've been speaking to on the phone. Matured, respectful, pleasant and playful with the kids, what more could a girl ask for? I mouthed a quick thanks heavenwards and subtly pulled my sister to the corner!
I Made Bank!
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I made bank...literally.
This time three years ago, the Hubs was asking where my faith
was. He couldn’t understand why i wasn't mostly thankful for safe delivery and for the birth of
a healthy baby. I was thankful for safe delivery, thankful for my ‘ada’ but i
need only to remember that i have been discharged since the 15th and that my really tiny,
tomato-red baby was still on admission and i’m bursting into fresh tears. I knew
yellow skin meant jaundice. Red skin was what floored me. When i heard lupus
erythematosus being bandied around by the doctors, i knew it was time to re-negotiate
with God.
The Hubs said she would pull through. Her attending doctor
said she was a fighter. Three years later, i believe them. Introducing ’Zitera Uloaku at 3. Industry name ~ Zizi Banks. I
told y’all i made bank. Haha.
Managing Sensitive Skin in Babies
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Guest Feature,
Health Living
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Does your baby have sensitive skin? From years of practice as a
pharmacist, I have come across a lot of mothers with babies that have sensitive
skin (as most babies seem to do these days) with little or no idea on how to
handle it.
Babies with sensitive skin tend to break out with rashes very often.
They also have dry, itchy skin and might seem to cry very often. Babies with
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comfort, while you patiently wait for them to outgrow it, because they most
likely will.
Helpful tips?
Helpful tips?
♥ Avoid medicated powders. They are usually too harsh
for the skin. Powders generally can encourage drying out of the skin and
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wipes, etc. They are milder to the skin.
♥ Use mild soaps and moisturizers (eg Cetaphil, E45,
Oilatum, Aveeno, Sebamed). Shea butter is also great for sensitive skin.
♥ Try lactose-free formulas. Lactose can predispose
to sensitive skin.
♥ Check the labels of supplements and food they eat.
Some might contain potential allergens like oil from nuts. A good example is
Abidec, which contains arachis oil and might enhance sensitivity.
♥ Dress your baby in cotton clothes; they are usually
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♥ Watch your baby's bathing routine. Bath with warm
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Of Disagreeable Decisions and Dire Consequences
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So I was going through work images on my lappy {I really should fix up and give her a name...} and came across these pictures my hubby took of me last weekend. And for the life of me, I could not fathom how come these pictures aren’t on my blog yet. I mean, the one picture I look like a human being should be #ontheblog the minute it passes muster, right? So my “enemies”...tihehe...go know say i don dey try!
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| Slit of Life!! |
To today’s post tho...Coming back to Lagos on Sunday, we had this taxi pick us up from the hotel to the airport. Now, why a hotel like the one we stayed in does not have its own airport shuttle arrangement is beyond me. Chic-from-Lasgidi like me, with hubby in tow, was now subjected to getting the piece of crap on wheels that we got. Now, if you had to ask if it had air-conditioning, then i might not have described this taxi very well. I couldn’t wait to get to the airport to weigh myself; pretty sure i was gonna be 2kg lighter on account of that sauna session from the hotel to the airport! Someone shoulda told us PH cab men didn’t joke with Sunday church service!
Anyways, there i was melting away in the backseat of this cab when i
sighted the airport toll gate. I’d never been happier to see one before. Really,
the powers that be should think of moving PH town closer to the airport! This
journey {took almost 30mins} from the pit was about to end. Anyways, i was
happy not just because of the heat. Nah. During the course of the drive, we
realized our cab man shoulda been one of those in church. Dunno if it was his
driving skills or his very reluctant-to-serve car or both but something needed
prayers! I mean, we nearly hit a stationary Prado jeep that was minding its
business by the side of the road. But i digress...
The Inspired Mom ~ Candy Agu at 40!
Labels:
Candy Agu,
The Inspired Mom
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My first guest on the Inspired Mom series is the delectable Candy Agu. Wife to a serving State Commissioner and mother to two adorable dudes, 13 and 10 respectively, Candy is the face and muscle behind the award-winning party souvenirs and corporate gifts outfit Party In A Box Limited. She’s especially first on this series because today, March 15, is her birthday. This early-twenties-looking lady is 40 years old today! WOW!!
The Inspired Mom Series
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Inspired
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"The most important job in the world isn't being a CEO. The most important job in the world is being a MOM!"
That a lot of 21st century career moms, myself included, struggle with balancing the work-business-family equation is a fact that will remain undisputed for a long time. Some women, however, juggle all these balls that they have to without dropping any....and still come out smelling like Womanity by Thierry Mugler!
The Inspired Mom series on this blog would feature women who has inspired me...and are still inspiring me to do better than I already am! Young, old or in-between, there's still a thing or ten to be learnt from the experiences of others!
The first post in this series will be up on Friday the 15th. Excited yet? I am!
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Birthday Blues
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March 4th, 2013
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Celebrating Love
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Beddings 'n' Beyond,
Celebrating Love,
Married Life
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Anyways, my colleague and a huge believer in the Beddings ‘n’ Beyond brand {what else does carte blanche on furniture, curtains and bedding for his house say?} got married on Saturday, February 9.
That he got married isn’t why I’m writing this post, even tho that in itself is a huge deal. It seemed like this dude had hugged his confirmed bachelor trophy close to chest and just plain refused to let go. I guess it took the right woman...and at the very time he needed her, to change his mind. But I digress.
Nah. This post
is about how he called me and said, “Babe, I need you to make my bedroom
beautiful for when I bring my wife
home on Monday, February 11. Do what you gotta do!” I love when clients say
that... “Just do what you gotta do and send me a bill”. Limitless...
Anyways, i did what i gotta do, with the help of my friends Bidemi & Foluke....new mattress, new pillows, new bedding,
fresh ambience, for the new couple. Here’s a peek at the end product....
Not Simple, Yet It Is
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The
dissimilarity between a man and a woman is so much more than the “wo” in woman.
I’ve always known this but on this day, with every tear shed in confusion by
this friend, I’m reminded again! The difference dates back, as far as
childhood.
You
see, girls love to nurture. Boys, on the other hand, cannot be bothered. Where
you see a little girl having a heart to heart with her doll, hosting a tea
party or making eba and soup from sand and wild leaves, the boy is busy hunting
down clueless, innocent lizards with his catapult. Lizards don’t need
tête-à -têtes and really, what can compare to the thrill of hunting? Certainly
not coo-ing to “stupid” dolls!
The difference persists into and probably through teen years. While the girl has her face buried in her Mills & Boon, trying and possibly succeeding to conjure and communicate with her future dream husband, the boy is busy fapping car keys from busy and unsuspecting parents, studying Nackson the Nacker and keeping scores of babes “nacked”, real or imagined! The thrill…
As
young adults tho, the dissimilarity diminishes. With no lizards to hunt and no
inclination to do so really (not unless he relishes being called a retard), the
guy has got ample time to really think about wooing the opposite sex. By now,
he has watched Titanic and Serendipity a few times and so he’s catching up,
quite nicely, on how to be romantic. Also, he’s making money now with little or
no responsibility other than spoiling you stinkers. So cozy dinners, nights out,
flowers, gifts & presents, holidays are pretty much a norm. This is the
type of love a woman loves. And this is where she begins to sing:The difference persists into and probably through teen years. While the girl has her face buried in her Mills & Boon, trying and possibly succeeding to conjure and communicate with her future dream husband, the boy is busy fapping car keys from busy and unsuspecting parents, studying Nackson the Nacker and keeping scores of babes “nacked”, real or imagined! The thrill…
It
shall be permanent… {2x}
What the Lord has done for me…
It shall be permanent.
And then it becomes permanent, the kind that
says, “...until death do us part!”What the Lord has done for me…
It shall be permanent.
Cuter Than A Button
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My baby sister @Labelleace “took delivery” of this precious little Princess {with a capital P} on the 7th of January! I cannot believe Belle is now a mother of 2!!
Look
at her...Danica a.k.a D2. Feels like i've know this child forever. Belle and i
couldn't wait for her to get here. She took her sweet time. Diva!
Winking at the camera? Excuse me but these kids start early! What does a 3-day old know about smiling for the camera?! Love her.
...and she looks exactly like me. Nobody is gonna convince me otherwise.
Congratulations, sister mine! God continue to bless you and yours...and give you the strength and grace to contend with their antics, both D1 and D2. Best be saying a stronger "Amen" on the strength part of that prayer! Chets and Zi are no different from Tom and Jerry! So exhausting!
Belle blogs at Belle's Kitchen. Where she finds the energy, i'll never know. Superwoman, my baby sister!
Tickled or Teaching?
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It has become some sort of an early
morning routine with them, my son and his father. Once the hubby is up, he
calls for Chets to fetch him drinking water. Some days especially when he's
angling for the iPad, Chets doesn't waste time fetching the drinking water.
Other days, though quite rare, he’ll throw a “Daddy, why are you always lying
down and sending me to get water? Eeeeeeeevery morning...” or “I’m tired
too...” at his father and then grudgingly skip off to get the water. As
punishment though, he’ll drink half of the water, slurp some more all over the
floor and then present the rest to his thirsty father. The poor man eventually
gets less than a quarter-full glass of water! Whichever way his mood swings or
his day starts, one thing was constant: Chets always fetches the water. iPad is
still the endgame.
This particular morning though, he
balked. Like, he said “No Daddy, I AM TIRED!!!”. Can’t say I blame him; I know
exactly how he felt. You know how it is when you have to wake up real early to
get ready for school (in Cheta’s case) or to get ready for an early morning meeting
(in my case) and someone else is well ensconced in their duvet, watching TV cos
their job encourages working remote? It can pain. Infact, it pains extra when
they now send you on errands from the delish comforts of their duvet cos hey,
you are already up and about. Tres painful.
Anyways, I’m guessing that’s how Chets
felt this morning. I guess I understood. But this was not about understanding.
This was about parenting. I was not raised to say “No, I won’t do it; I am too
tired” to my father when he sends me on errands. Your mama born you well so? My daddy will slap you into next week!
So mba, I was not raised to say no to, or even query
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